This one's a toughie!

Wow.
I think of course, ideally, someone wants someone whose a virgin, to lose their virginity together...
I did too.
But when you fall in love, you understand people make mistakes, their past is something they cannot change, so perhaps you can make the decision to forgive, because the only person in their HEART now, is you.
Knowing they love you, isn't that enough?

Quote by SiloveIt sounds like you've known him for a very long time. I don't know how much that my opinion will matter--I'm only fifteen--but I think you sound ready to be married with him.

My parents were engaged after they met 2 weeks earlier (I know! When I heard this, I freaked out and yelled, "WHAT?! MOM, WHY WOULD YOU SAY YES THAT EARLY?!") Although they had a long engagement to get to know each other better, it was still really wierd. But knowing your fiance for three years sounds perfect, especially if he's been your best friend too. You must know him so well!

If it's love, it's love. I've always had a strong belief of that (but again, don't know how much my opinion matter in this subject--I haven't dated yet)

Anyway, I think it sounds perfect, and age 19 isn't too young to me.

That is such a cute story! I bet your parents are really interesting!
At any rate, thank you for the kind words, and thanks everyone else for their contributions!

I told my good friend the other day, "I haven't taken many risks in my life, so taking a risk on love doesn't sound too bad to me."

I guess, all I can really say is, maybe if you all knew me personally the reaction to my decision would vary.

But thanks again! <3

I think I should clarify now, that we don't plan on having kids. At all. lol

I suppose that is true, I actually wanted congratulations because about only 2 people that matter to me have actually been supportive and not completely negative.
Thanks for the advice, and I agree with the person who said I shouldn't even really care about what other people say, it matters how I feel about the matter.
I mentioned the stuff about school, because aI guess I wanted people to have an idea of what kind of person I am, I had neer really taken part in anything frivolous and I always take things extremely seriously.
I figure he is not JUST someone I view romantically he is a true best friend. Someone who has always stood by me and been there even if my parents hadn't, that kind of thing.
Trust me, I am verrrrry in love with him, but it does help a LOT to know that he is also someone who will be inovlved in my life no matter what, because he always has!
I have been the same for him too.
I truly feel, it's a forever kind of love.
I comprehend we will have to work hard and we might have problems, but the love will make it worth it, I think.
It has gotten me through so much already.
But thanks again, for the advice and/or support.

I thought about it for a while, and the phrase 'no offense", is kind-of useless!
When someone says that after a rude comment, are you REALLY going to NOT take offense? I think that phrase should be eliminated because the only purpose it serves is pissing people off passive- aggressively!

I know what you mean. But it is not necessarily true that a divorce could tear your family apart, because from what it sounds like, your family is already in pieces. Honestly, I can relate to your problem, and more and more, I almost wish my parents would divorce. Because, is it fair for everyone to be miserable? No.
So you really shouln't be so scared of perhaps a trial separation or something because sometimes couples need a break.
So everything will eventually be fine, because things can only improve, right?
Just hang in there, with the support of your friends, okay?
That's really the only thing you can do.

***hugs***

I am with a nerd! He is confident but at the same time a little shy, he is into anime and video games (a must!) he is funny and sarcastic!
He's real.
And he is smart!
So that's the perfect combo for me!

Thanks you guys!
I havbe just been bummed out lately because I lack the support of my parents...

Heaven. I have made mistakes of course, but everyone does, plus God is a very forgiving entity.

Well, he has a job in the army as a A1 Abrahms Tank driver.

In the army, you get paid extra for being married.

The thing is,
I think it is absurd that everyone thinks focusing on myself = going to college. I like college but it doesn't make me as happy as he does.

I posted on here because I was hoping for feedback that was different from the standard "you're too young" insult.

For once, it would be nice for someone to say "Good for you!"

merged: 07-23-2006 ~ 11:15am
Oh yeah, he offered to help me pay for college when we got married anyways!

bananas

Hello.

First of all, let me say I am an intelligent 18 year old and I make excellent grades and have always thought things through and made wise decisions.

I have completed 15 credits at college before I have started my "freshman year".

I also have had the same smart, kind, loving boyfriend for 3 years.

He is 20 years old.

He is not merely a boyfriend, but also my best friend.

The times we have spent have been the best of my life!

Especially when he proposed to me a month ago with a dozen roses, a poem he wrote and photoshopped across a picture of us, during a lovely dinner at my favorite romantic restaurant, presenting me with his great grandmother's beautiful engagement ring!

So should I let it get to me that people keep telling me that 18 is too young to get engaged, even though the one who knows me best is my fiancee?

merged: 07-23-2006 ~ 10:44am
We plan to get married in a year or so, by the way.

This shocks me, mostly due to the fact that the girl's mother should be turned in for being such an ignorant parent.
First of all, her daughter already drinks and smokes 20 cigarettes a day which is probably going to stunt her growth and give her lung cancer.
How did she end up at a party with a 15 year old, having drunken sex?
Did her mother not teach her to say no?
I didn't even know what sex really was at 11.
I never kissed a guy until I was 16 and this girl had sex!
Her mother neglected her!
Not to mention, she obviously did not inform her daughter that smoking DOES in fact cause birth defects, that dumb ass.
It REALLY pisses me off that the one that has to suffer the most is the baby, unaware and helpless in her situation.
The one who should be thrown in jail in that nitwit mother.
She should have been punished by authorities a long time ago because there are going to be 3 children in this world as a result of her idiocy and that's assuming her 11- year old's baby does not die.
I am so livid after reading that.
If I saw that woman, I would punch her in the face! >=0!

Thank you all for responding! FY is really such a wonderful series!

merged: 07-23-2006 ~ 09:58am
But at any rate, have any of you gotten into Yu Watase's more recent works: FY Genbu Kaiden, and Absolute Boyfriend?

Well the thing is, I will be talking about something serious and he'll be so distracted by the video game I get a little pissy because I feel like I'm just one of many multi-tasks. I don't mind calling later if the conversation is just fluff, but when I wanna talk about my feelings, I feel like hanging up when I hear gunshots/ music/etc in the background.

Jealously is natural, but mainly if you are insecure. It is hard to be completely confident, but the element of trust in a relationship must come eventually or else your lover will wind up resenting you for doubting them. Love is not jealous!

2 YEARS and a few weeks. And we're still together. We have ups and downs but we love each other and respect each other and most of all trust each other.

HELL NO. You can only give one person your whole heart. Not half of your heart to 2 different people. True love can only be between 2 people or else it is infatuation, not love.

I am 18 and my bf is 20...sometimes it is difficult because I am still enjoying being young and naive but there is some pressure to act more mature and responsible. So just be careful and don't accidentally treat her like she is your age, because she is young and needs to be given the chance to live according to her age not according to yours.

I would say 25! I would love to be married at 22 but I won't count my chickens before they hatch!

If your girlfriend, whom you loved, called you while you were playing a video game, would you stop playing or continue? This can really make a girl feel unimportant if you keep playing...

My mom does the same thing dude. It really sucks. But it has gotten to the point where I just tune her out and go about my business.

What provokes you? How do you react? And how do you deal with it?
Right now I am livid because someone is talking crap about someone I love.
I am tempted to give that person my two cents, which may or may not involve expletives. However, I am trying to be all "zen" about it.
But it ain't working!